Start by asking yourself, What is your life plan? Do you have one? What are your goals? And Why? The most important question is WHY.
When I put words to this thing called the Why, it completely changed the direction of my life. Not a single thing that I’m doing today was a part of any plan – how could they be? I could not even had imagined them.
I read an article the other day that posed the question: “How will you know when you’re successful?”
The truth is, you don’t. Or at least, I don’t. It’s impossible for me to know. I do know that there is a difference between being successful and feeling successful. And if you ask me if I feel successful I would say; “not yet”.
The thing to understand here is that, by most standard of measurements, I am enjoying more success now than at any other time in my life, but I still don’t feel successful. This is what makes the question so fantastic. If the goal is to feel successful, what is the measurement we should use to achieve that feeling?
Also consider who thinks that you are successful? If I would go around each and every person that knows you a little and ask them if you are successful they would probably all say yes. They would say “You have two degrees from one of the major competitive cities in the world, you have been at a high position at a Fashion Magazine in New York, you have met more influential people than most people will in their whole life, you have flown private jets and been sent across the world to attend shows and galas…and you are in your twenties!” But see, this is where we differ, since I feel that I am nowhere close to where I want to be, here I aim to be, where I will eventually be; career-wise and personal-wise.
The most common standard measurement is money – our bank accounts. That’s how so many people measure their success today, so perhaps it works? I for one have never been motivated by the money. If we were to measure success in $, we’d all have a number in our minds that, if we reached it, we’d stop working. And most of us don’t. No matter how much I make, I don’t want to stop working. Money doesn’t help me answer that question.
Some would argue that you’re as successful as the company you keep. Certainly there is a connection between our friends and who we are. But can we really measure our success based simply on the company we keep? The other day when I found out that Liv was asked to write an article for SVD I was in awe. I was SO proud of her. I was proud of being her friend. But at the same time it made me feel less successful. Not in a bad way. But it just made me aspire to do well, as well as Liv. This is a good thing, when your friends inspire you to get better and be better. This is why I love my Successful friends. The irony in this is that regardless of how successful we think someone is, we don’t actually know if they feel successful.
IF Liv feels successful, what she has found is momentum. It is that momentum that makes her feel good. It is the momentum that makes her feel successful.
I know momentum is building. That, more than any other measurement, makes me feel successful.
So what of the original question, “How will you know when you’re successful?”
The answer: When I reach a level of momentum where the movement can advance without me – then I will feel successful.